Month: March 2017

Overthinking

I am an overthinker, there I’ve said it.  I can admit my shortcomings and overthinking is definitely one of them because it has caused more problems in my life than I can put down in words.  I have always done it and am working hard to stop the cycle!  You do something, and in reality you’ve done your best, but that little voice in your head starts going and tells you that you did something wrong or it won’t work out or, the big one, you’ll fail.  Recently, I had an incident that went well, but I had time to start overthinking and it barrel-rolled and I ended up in a state of panic and did something rather stupid.  I won’t go into any further detail because, frankly, thinking about it makes me cringe.  The point is overthinking is detrimental to running a business; it paralyzes you from moving forward.  The event I just talked about ruined an entire day that I could have been working on my business.  I did some research on the subject and found a great blog post about ten things to do to stop overthinking.  I’ll share the link below.  In short, do something, anything to get out of your head and stop listening to that awful little voice telling you that you screwed it up somehow.  Good luck with this, because I know I’m going to need it!

 

http://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/10-simple-ways-you-can-stop-yourself-from-overthinking.html

 

Until next time, blessings to you all,

 

Elizabeth

Overcoming the stress of being an Overachiever.

I read an article recently about this and I will share the link to it below.  A huge portion of the working population is overachievers.  And that’s great; don’t get me wrong – all of us should strive to do our very best every day we are on this planet.  But we don’t have to go it alone.  As a virtual assistant, it is my job to take the stress out of your business.  I take care of the details that are probably driving you crazy; like your over-flowing inbox or maybe your disorganized calendar.  I can send out the mailings or newsletters; proofread/edit your blog post. I handle the bookkeeping so you don’t have to because let’s face it; most people don’t want to deal with that at all.  I’m not trying to be “salesy”, that is not how I operate, but I am in the business of making your business run smoother so that you can concentrate of doing the things that you love to do that made you start your business in the first place. So, if you are an overachiever, and likely, you are, then read the blog post associated with this one and see how to de-stress your life; and, if I can be of any help with the process, don’t hesitate to get in touch with me.

https://www.dailyworth.com/posts/4417-overcoming-the-stress-of-overachieving

Until next time, blessings to you all,

Elizabeth

Do you hear them?

Have you ever been around someone and after you left them you felt drained, physically and emotionally? I call those people that make you feel like that psychic vampires because they literally suck the life out of you. The same goes for naysayers, negative people, people who don’t believe in you and the likes. Recently, someone told me that they didn’t believe in my business; needless to say I was upset. And not just in an ‘Ouch that hurt my feelings’ way, but in a deep-down soul crushing way. Their not believing in me really affected me, and I must admit, still does. It isn’t easy to muster up the courage to start your own business. It isn’t easy to be your own cheerleader when no one is around to tell you ‘you’re great’. Also, recently, I had a friend and mentor tell me that she thought I could do it, that my own worst enemy was me. She said I had the intelligence and ability to have my own business and be a success. Two opposite ends of the spectrum, each with very different effects on me. However, for me to succeed, I do have to be my own best friend instead of my own worst enemy. Which, by the way, does not come natural for me; but, it is very important to have an accurate view of one’s self.

Now, how do you do that? I watched a quick video on the blog at http://www.VAclassroom.com about this very subject and there were a few points made that I will elaborate on to help you have an accurate view of you.

1. Avoid negative self-talk. I mean as soon as you realize you’re doing it, nip it in the bud. This takes a lot of hard work because negative self-talk is insipid, it whispers instead of shouts. So, be vigilant! (BTW, this is hardest for me, personally)
2. Track the progress of your employment, business, whatever it is you’re doing. Congratulate and reward yourself for every small victory, every achievement large or small. Think of a good reward too, something that really pampers you.
3. Have a mentor. I mentioned mine above, she always tells me I can do it and bolsters me up. She doesn’t lie and tell me it will be all rainbows and sunshine, but she tells me it will be okay, and sometimes that is all we want to hear anyway.
4. Every so often, take an inventory of your skills and abilities. See where you have grown, where you have developed. Track progress as a person, employee or business owner. And again, celebrate your achievements.
5. Never stop learning new skills to add to that inventory in number 4. Always be growing, trying new things, taking classes, whatever it is you are into. Going outside of our comfort zones, always helps us grow as people and grow our confidence.

Those are my thoughts on the subject, please feel free to comment or add to the list.

Until next time, blessings to you all,

Elizabeth

Worry much?

Am I the only one who is still awake at midnight thinking, ‘Are you insane, you don’t know how to run a business?’, or ‘I’m not good enough’.  I somehow don’t think I am the only one thinking, ‘I’m not good enough to (fill in the blank).’  I worry about everything, from how I’m going to run my own business to how I am going to provide my clients with the best, most efficient service possible.  None of us want to fail, yet it is looming in the back of our minds somewhere more than any of us wants to admit.  Yet I’d rather worry about what I am doing than shoot from the hip and just let things land where they land.  I’m a planner, and a worrier, it just is that way.  So, how do I use this to my advantage?  That’s a good question and I’m still working out the answer to that.  We can either think of how are quirks are disadvantages or turn it around and turn them into something positive.   I know there’s a way, I just haven’t figured it out yet; maybe the answer will come to me and I’ll share it in another post.

So, what do I do when I am worrying about everything?  I pray, and I pray a lot.  That may not be the answer for you.  So I suggest meditation, going for a walk, watching a movie, playing video games, play with your pet.  The point is to get out of your head, period.  Just stop, because worrying doesn’t do anyone any good.  Breaking the cycle of worrying clears your head and lets you look at whatever was worrying you in a better light.  Maybe then, the answer will come to you of what to do or how to do it.

Those are my thoughts on the whole worrying thing.  If you have any comments, please feel free to leave them.  And if any of you have advice on how to turn the worrying thing into something positive, I really want to hear from you.

Until next time, blessings to you all.

Elizabeth